I won’t pretend to have the answers, but I’ll tell you where I go looking. I’ve organized these resources based on common questions I ask (yell). Feel free to read what you want, ignore what you don’t, and tell me what you think. I’ve read everything listed and scored some major #truthbombs along the way.

Note: I’m recommending books because I love them—they’ve changed my life. And if you buy one using a link below, you’ll contribute directly to my travel fund. (Everyone should have a travel fund.) Basically, these are affiliate links, and I thought you should know.

How do I get out
of my own way?

Daring Greatly by Brené Brown
Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
The Art of Work by Jeff Goins
The War of Art by Steven Pressfield

Will I ever
stop crying?

Everything Doesn’t Happen for a Reason
by Tim Lawrence
The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion
It’s Okay to Laugh by Norah McInerny Purmort
The Problem of Pain by C.S. Lewis

Am I alone?

Furiously Happy by Jenny Lawson
Girl, Interrupted by Susanna Kaysen
So Sad Today by Melissa Broder

Who’s paving
the way?

Shrill by Lindy West
You Can’t Touch My Hair by Phobe Robinson
Becoming by Laura Jane Williams
Love Warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton
Why Not Me by Mindy Kaling

What if it’s
not working?

Searching for Sunday by Rachel Held Evens
Meeting Jesus Again for the First Time by Marcus Borg
Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis
White Hot Truth by Danielle LaPorte

How can I

Extraordinary Relationships by Roberta Gilbert
The Relationship Cure by John Gottman
The Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch
You Just Don’t Understand by Deborah Tannen

Are we
too broken?

The Verbally Abusive Relationship
by Patricia Evens
Boundaries by Henry Cloud & John Townsend
Keeping Faith by Marie M. Fortune
Not “Just Friends” by Shirley P. Glass
The Verbally Abusive Man: Can He Change
by Patricia Evens

Can I
survive it?

Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends
by Bruce Fisher and Robert Alberti
“The Sacrament of Divorce” by Anne Patchet
(essay in This is the Story of a Happy Marriage)
The Days of Abandonment by Elena Ferrante

Where do
I start?

Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott
The Memoir Project by Marion Roach Smith
The Art of Memoir by Mary Karr
Writing Down the Bones by Natalie Goldberg

Any good
beach reads?

Fangirl by Rainbow Rowell
Maybe in Another Life by Taylor Jenkins Reid
Let’s Take The Long Way Home by Gail Caldwell
I’m Just a Person by Tig Notaro
I’ve Got Your Number by Sophie Kinsella

What should I read next?

I haven’t finished these yet, but I may be a good way through. If you pick one up, let’s talk about it. It’ll be like our own mini book club, but we don’t have to brush our hair or wear pants. Win-win.